Tuesday, November 6, 2007

Islam and POLYGAMY

POLYGAMY is allowed in Islam. Speaking as a man, I don’t personally have an issue here. Even if I was inclined to, I know that I cannot afford more than one wife. From what I understand, the vast majority of Muslim men have only one wife. Makes sense to me. After all, if you really care about the women you love, you would not commit to more than what you can afford. (While you and I may agree or disagree, Islam places the burden of support of women on the men.)

Some of the reasons Islam allows more than one wife. (Note * I have left some out. For the complete list, please go to under ‘Most common questions asked by Non-Muslims’.)

5. Average life span of females is more than that of males.
7. World female population is more than male population
8. Restricting each and every man to have only one wife is not practical.
"Even if every man got married to one woman, there would still be more than thirty million females in U.S.A who would not be able to get husbands (considering that America has twenty five million gays). There would be more than four million females in Great Britain, 5 million females in Germany and nine million females in Russia alone who would not be able to find a husband."
"Suppose my sister happens to be one of the unmarried women living in USA, or suppose your sister happens to be one of the unmarried women in USA. The only two options remaining for her are that she either marries a man who already has a wife or becomes public property. There is no other option. All those who are modest will opt for the first.
In Western society, it is common for a man to have mistresses and/or multiple extra-marital affairs, in which case, the woman leads a disgraceful, unprotected life. The same society, however, cannot accept a man having more than one wife, in which women retain their honorable, dignified position in society and lead a protected life.
Thus the only two options before a woman who cannot find a husband is to marry a married man or to become public property. Islam prefers giving women the honorable position by permitting the first option and disallowing the second.
There are several other reasons why Islam has permitted limited polygamy, but it is mainly to protect the modesty of women."

The point about women’s option of either being married or becoming public property is of concern to me. What is meant by ‘Public Property’? A more extensive study of Islam is necessary to understand what meanings could be attached here.

1 comment:

  1. your figures are out -
    also u mentioned gay men what about gay women?
    What about women who choose neither to be second wives or public property but to just be single and even remain virgins if religious (like my unmarried great aunt).
    Also even if women married as second wives, what are the chances that the man is good enough for her? or even if he can provide financially for her what are the chances he is capable of providing for all her emotional& physical needs?
    What man thinks he's so great he actually deserves more than 1 woman, and even if he does convince/brainwash/lie his way to get more than one wife (I only love you... I can't divorce her she the mother of my kids.. I had to marry her to help with her islam.. etc..) does he actually deserve two wives when in reality he is causing so much pain (most likely) to 2+ women and any number of kids??!!
    How come the scholars hardly ever mention reality and the logical objections to polygamy? I did read something in islamonline but thats rare